There’s a question I’m commonly asked that I have no answer for. Well, I have theories, but they’re pretty much pure conjecture.
“If everything you say is true, then why are sluts/psychos/bitches the ones who always seem to have boyfriends?”
I have to say that this often appears to be true. The most awful, mean girls always clean up if they’re halfway hot. Or we find out that the biggest slut in the sorority is now officially dating the QB who everyone thought was just using her. We hear stories of hot guys literally begging bitchy girls to be exclusive.
Nice, single women of good character feel baffled and resentful. If the guys who have the most choice select women who are spoiled, moody narcissists, what does that mean for the rest of us? Do we need a form of Bitch Girl Game to get the attention of guys?
I was recently listening to my new favorite band Every Avenue when the song Girl Like That came on, and it made me start thinking about this question all over again.
What can you do with a girl like that?
Taking everything giving nothing back
Stuck between her legs when she sets her trap
What can you do with a girl like that?
She’s knows what she’s doing
Standing there with her headphones in
Skinny jeans and a tattoo
Her smile makes me wonder where she’s been
I would make a move if I thought there was a chance she’d let me in
What can you do with a girl like that?
Taking everything giving nothing back
Stuck between her legs when she sets her trap
What can you do with a girl like that?
I can’t wait for the weekend
Downtown where we all sneak in
Everybody’s trying to get some
She takes a drink and then she laughs at them
I can’t coast gotta move slow
Watching her as she works the room
Does she see me? Does she know I
Wear my confidence like a costume?
I would make a move if I thought there was a chance she’d let me in
It’s like a curse that’s she’s put on me
Sweaty hands, shaking knees
Tell her that I want her to move too fast.
That’s what you do with a girl like that.
I think it could be me she’s looking at
And that’s a smile I see
So now I know that I can make a move
’cause I think there’s a chance she’ll let me in.
What’s up with that? What do guys really want? Poking around online, I found the variety of explanations I pretty much expected, some of which I’ve offered to readers before.
1. Men like the challenge of an emotionally unavailable woman: I would make a move if I thought there was a chance she’d let me in.
2. Men want to turn the biggest bitch into their personal love slave: Swept Away
httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z8MKuPLt6Ug&feature=related
3. Men secretly like drama. Complicated, unpredictable women keep life interesting.
4. Men believe that psycho bitches are good between the sheets. They know sluts are.
5. From an evo psych perspective, a woman’s feisty ability to fight back (when raped) signaled the ability and fitness to bear and rear children.
6. Mean girls are independent, much less work than girls who want to be romanced.
7. Men are more likely to get with outgoing, communicative women who pose little rejection risk. Promiscuous women excel at this.
8. Only very young men prioritize sexual access over character, mental stability, and selectivity.
Do you know women like this who can have any guy they want? What do you think their secret is?
Is it just players who go for these women? Or do they have some kind of universal appeal?
Guys, do you dig chicks like this? Enough to date them? Or do you hate them but pursue them anyway?
Do men look for one kind of girl to bring home to f*ck, and another kind to bring home to Mom?
Do girls need to learn some Bitch Girl Game to get your attention?
